SIMPLE, SENSIBLE, SCIENTIFICALLY SUPPORTED SELF HELP


The Real Secret is a different kind of self help. We debunk the empty promises of so many books and DVDs and bring you a simple, sensible approach to real life fulfillment. We don't believe you can achieve happiness, or anything else, by simply wishing for, thinking about or visualising it. Our book - and this blog - takes only the best of what really works and turns it into a positive, practical 12-step programme that will enable you to take control of your life and raise your happiness levels.

* Learn Happiness Habits from Positive Psychology * Tame your Fear with Cutting Edge Neuroscience * Control your Time and Money like an Entrepreneur * Build Better Relationships through one Tested Technique

The Real Secret is simple, sensible, scientifically supported self help
by Lucy McCarraher & Annabel Shaw

1/19/2011

Sue Blake's Media Relations Online Book club - The Real Secret is in!

Would you like a FREE copy of The Real Secret? All you have to do to get one is write an intelligent, 300 word review and post it online.

Sue Blake Media specialise in promoting great books and the authors behind them. They represent a wide range of books covering business, entrepreneurship, careers, professional development, health, fitness, lifestyle and mind body spirit and have helped many titles to become best sellers in their field.

They also run the Sue Blake's Media Relations Online Book Club, which gives YOU the opportunity to receive a complimentary book of your choice from their list (they add to this list on a regular basis, so keep watching) in exchange for your independent 300 word review of the title.


The Real Secret is the latest title to be added to the book club, which we're delighted about. All you need to do is contact them, receive your free copy and post your review on the SBMR Online Book Club within 4 weeks of receiving the book. Of course, Amazon reviews are the holy grail of reviews and we would be very pleased if you could post a review there too.
If you would like to review The Real Secret, or any of their other titles, then please contact sue@sueblake.com or have a look at the website

They're also on Twitter. Follow them for all the latest Book Club news, discussions and conversation http://twitter.com/SBMRBookClub and The Sue Blake Media Online Book Club is also within www.linkedin.com.

How Much Do You Understand Yourself?

Psychologists have long known about the effect that our immediate surroundings can have on our mood. Norbert Schwarz showed how dull weather could make your whole life look bad. On a sunny day it just looks so much better. What he also showed was that once you become aware of the effect it vanishes!
Being aware of the surrounding influences on one's mood then, is important because the effect can be really strong. And it's not just the weather that can affect how you feel - feeling hungry because you skipped breakfast, or didn't have time to have lunch, can make you feel downright irritable as well as mournful. Even colour can have a noticeable affect on mood, altering it from upbeat to downbeat in a fairly short time.
There is a small problem however - whilst Professor Schwarz did show that being aware of the effect would diminish it's influence on our mood - we just seem to keep forgetting . Instead we tend to dismiss this influence and blame our moods either on ourselves or on others.

So when you're feeling down, look around you and think of all the influences that may be affecting your mood. Did you skip breakfast? What's the weather doing? Just can't stand that wallpaper!
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Annabel

1/18/2011

Why Are Some People Happy?

Have you ever wondered why people who are already contented and confident seem to get all the best breaks, have the most satisfying relationships, seem to enjoy more fun and exciting lives? It seems so unfair when they’re not necessarily better at their jobs, nicer people or more deserving than you. Yet they get what they want out of life, achieve their goals and feel at ease with themselves in a way that often manages to escape you.
We often make the mistake of thinking that people are happy because they've achieved their goals, have more money or a loving partner, but the likelihood is that they’re not happy and fulfilled because they have all those things. Long term research has shown that it’s entirely the other way round: happy people have better relationships, more successful careers, earn more money, maintain closer links with friends and family and savour life more. So the best way to join the ranks of the successful and satisfied is simply to get happy.
Some people are born with a higher happiness "set point" than others, but we can all improve on the hand we were born with and the cards life has dealt us so far. Some of us have to deal with more knock backs and difficulties than others, but these are not an obstacle to leading a happy life – indeed, they can actually help us achieve it. So if you are feeling a little defeated at the moment, take heart; we’re here to help.
You can start the process by simply choosing to be happier. Once you've made that decision, you need to get into the habit of acting out and believing in your own improved happiness.
One simple way is just to smile more - yes, really!
Just as happiness leads to success rather than vice versa, smiling can be used to create pleasure and not just express it. The physical act of smiling stimulates the pleasure centres in your brain, increases the level of health-enhancing hormones like endorphins and reduces the level of stress hormones – so get more pleasure out of life by smiling more often. The act of smiling also slightly cools the face and brain, which is associated with positive mood, while frowning warms them and activates changes that can make you feel sad and grumpy. Smile when you’re happy, but smile especially, perhaps, when you’re feeling down.

For more Habits of Happiness, which really will make you feel more positive and satisfied, read the first chapter of The Real Secret where we'll show you how!

1/09/2011

Bags of Money

January 2011 is considered by many to be auspicious. This is because in this January there are 5 Mondays, 5 Saturdays,and 5 Sundays. This only happens every 823 years. In France it's called 'sacs d'argent' because apparently it's the month when bags of money can be earned!

Just thought you'd want to know that.
Annabel

12/29/2010

Beware celebrity science fiction

Campaign group Sense about Science (SAS) publishes its latest list of celebrity science offenders. This is the latest event in a wave of criticism of pseudo-scientific fads - is this the new zeitgeist?

12/19/2010

What More Is There To Say About The Weather?

"When all is said and done, the weather and love are the two elements about which one can never be sure."
Alice Hoffman, 'Here on Earth'

"Barometer, n.: An ingenious instrument which indicates what kind of weather we are having."
Ambrose Bierce (1842 - 1914), The Devil's Dictionary

"Time for the weather report. It's cold out folks. Bonecrushing cold. The kind of cold which will wrench the spirit out of a young man, or forge it into steel."

Diane Frolov and Andrew Schneider, Northern Exposure, Lost and Found, 1992

 

"Weather forecast for tonight: dark. Continued dark overnight, with widely scattered light by morning."

George Carlin (1937 - 2008)


"Isn't it interesting that the same people who laugh at science fiction listen to weather forecasts and economists?"
Kelvin Throop III

"Don't knock the weather. If it didn't change once in a while, nine out of ten people couldn't start a conversation."
Kin Hubbard (1868 - 1930)

"No matter how rich you become, how famous or powerful, when you die the size of your funeral will still pretty much depend on the weather. "

Michael Pritchard


"Money is the opposite of the weather. Nobody talks about it, but everybody does something about it. "
Rebecca Johnson, Vogue

Managing Stress Over The Festive Season

Handling your own stress and stressful situations which present during every festive season, requires communication between ALL family members.   Lack of this essential communication is one of the biggest reasons why relationships within families, hit tricky patches which can sully the entire holiday. 
 
Everyone has their own take on how Christmas should be.   If we just stop and think about the fact that family life is a blend, a merging of different individual family backgrounds with all the complexities, nuances, expectations and traditions this brings, it is not difficult to see how easily things can go wrong and how this can create enormous stress on a day when all we really want to achieve is happiness and enjoyment for all.

How many of us actually take time to discuss what each of us expects Christmas to be like. For example:   how many presents should children receive?   What time of the day do they open the presents and do they open them all at once?   Who is responsible for what in the kitchen?   Who is fetching elderly relatives?   While one of us is cooking, does the other one look after the children AND play host to guests?   In fact, what is the routine for the day? .....

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